We live in an Islamic state where the religious practices are highly involved in daily life matters majorly in marital affairs. Islam teaches Muslims to not opt the way of divorce and work hard to rebuild the relation between husband and wife. However, the divorce rate is increasing and creating an alarming situation.
The family is the base of society. It creates tribes, clans, communities, societies and nations. Moreover, the family is responsible for the well being, personality development, and progress of the individual and society. There are various reasons of divorce in our society but analysts found some common issues in the past few years. We shed light on some prominent reasons that lead to divorce in Pakistan.
1. Trust deficit
One of the major reasons behind the increase in divorce in Pakistan is trust deficit mainly in working-class, where both men and women (husbands and wives) are working. Long working hours in the office or outside the house lead to a marginal trust absence and this takes shape of infidelity (proven or not). Trust is the base of a relationship and without trust, no relationship can work. Same is the case when the relationship is marriage.
2. Forced Marriages
The biggest drawback of forced marriage is a divorce where the girl or the boy did not want to get married to a particular person but were forced-in by the family. Such forced marriages do not last long. Either the boy or the girl has their interest elsewhere and this overcloud everything else and affects the marriage badly, resulting in separation or divorce. Some people also argue that love-marriages produce more divorces than arranged ones.
3. Interference of family and friends
The traditional way of living with the whole family often be the reason for disputes and fights that lead to divorce. If a couple is facing adjustment troubles in their marriage, friends and family almost think of it as their duty to step in, which is not always a good thing. The extra interference and involvement instead of doing good, further harms the cause. This includes harsh words, taunts, extreme fights and motives fed to the weakened tie between the couple and resulting in divorce.
4. Domestic Abuse
From the past many decades, Domestic Abuse is the major reason in increasing figures of divorce in Pakistan. In a dominating society, men dominate women in more than one ways. Women are believed to be mannequins that must bear and adhere to whatever is thrown their way by their partners. This leads to domestic abuse, in the form of verbal, physical and mental torture. Thus, forcing the woman to get a divorce from her husband.
5. Financial instability
Financial conditions and economic instability also plays a big part in the divorce. In Pakistan, mostly, the man is only responsible for the bread and butter of the family. The case also increases with at least 5-6 children which burden the economic system of the family and also decrease the wants and the wishes of the wife and children. If the girl/woman is not used to such a downgrade, she seeks divorce and walks out. On the other hand, if the woman starts working, this leads us to trust deficit and infidelity.
Bottom line
Struggling for rebuilding your relationship is good but if your efforts are not working and you will constantly under the burden of things than having a divorce is good for both your physical and mental health.
Everyone needs to be happy and stable in life. The fear of not facing past problems again creates depression and anxiety and become the reason for not getting married again. Also if one is ready to remarry then the huge obstruction is finding the best match. Finding the appropriate and required Match (Rishta) for divorced women and men is a lot difficult but possible work that brings happiness and joy to a person’s life and gives them support and stability.
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