Expert Guidelines

For Our Valued Members

Expert Views on Finding a Compatible Life Partner

Avoid being "Lookie loo":
Do not indulge in never ending profile scanning. If you do, you start to lose touch with the fact that each profile you view is tied to a human in a real world; you might delay choosing as a result. On the contrary, do not be discouraged that you wrote to so many members but didn't get any response. Do not take it personally as a rejection. Consider that you've probably browsed through 500 profiles- most of whom didn't interest you. You may have put them in your favorite list or send them "Interest", but actually you've written to none of them. Should each and every one of those guys feel hurt that you browsed them without making contact? We hope not.
Know "Thyself":
In order to be successful in finding the right person, you have to learn how to be the "best person you can be." You must be honest about who that is and who you want to share your life with. Many are running around pretending to be the best person someone else might want. None of us is perfect; we need to accept ourselves for who we are. We always have to remember that there is someone out there who will love us just the way we are.
Message "Quality" not Quantity :
Message only few of your prospective matches per week and be sure you send them high quality message. Do not just copy and paste hundreds of women. Be specific what attracts you to their profile, e.g. common interests, educational background, family values etc. Mention clearly what you are not looking for. Write it in BOLD, it saves everyone's time and efforts. Nobody wants to read a novel, and users should be careful about sharing too much so staying brief is recommended. The shortest messages get the best response rate; the reply rate goes down as messages get longer. In your initial message to a potential partner, its crucial to indicate that you've read his/her profile and took an interest in it. You can use phrases like, "you mention", good taste" and "noticed that". Avoid physical compliments which can put off the serious candidates.
Hard work "combined" with patience:
You cannot pass a test without hard work and you expect finding a true life partner by just browsing few times and hitting the interest button. The key component to success is patience and effort to reach out for potential candidates. You have to take every opportunity available to you, which mean you are enhancing your options. Our system might show you 20 members that share with you some important characteristics that are the basis of a good relationship, but that doesn't mean they are perfect. People spend years searching for a relationship. You can't give up because you reached out couple of profiles that didn't work out.
Taking the "relationship" offline:
Exchanging two or three emails is a good way to get a sense of each other's personality. After that, have a phone conversation- exchange cell numbers or Facebook information, not your home numbers. When you find a connection that interests you, set up a meeting in the presence of a friend or family. You'll never really know what you have in common until you meet them in real life.
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